When Is It Enough?

They say with age comes wisdom. If you have been around people long enough, you know that for some that isn’t always the case. But for most, when you have spent several decades inhabiting the body that you are in, you realize some things. Profound? Maybe. But I am having a bit of a shift in my thinking and it has me wondering…

When is it enough?

I am referring to the constant self-improvement that I see in the world. Whether it is in advertisements, social media, viral videos, etc… We are consistently being told that something is wrong with us and that we need to improve upon that. But what if you are just fine the way you are?

I am all for improving upon yourself if that’s what you WANT to do. I am here for all the information that you are looking for and hope that it truly helps you. I had to read up on health and nutrition when I wanted to work on improving my quality of life. So yes, self-improvement resources are awesome when that is what you are actually advocating for.

But what I have had enough of is the being told we are not enough as we are and that if you are not improving upon yourself, right this very minute, then something is fundamentally wrong with you.

I know that there are obviously many differences between the time when our grandparents were working and raising families and today’s time when we are doing the same. And I also know that they weren’t subjected to the onslaught of advertising that we are in 2022. But I think of my grandmother and how she lived her life and how she felt she was fine just the way she was.

She didn’t wonder about the “baby weight” after having three children. She just lived her life.

She didn’t think a certain outfit would make her more attractive. She was already beautiful.

She didn’t fill her home with stuff to impress people. She was already who she was and was absolutely fine with that.

I wonder, what exactly do we need to fix? Aren’t we already enough? The beautiful and messy and complex human beings that we have become, isn’t that an incredible thing?

Can we as a society not constantly tell people that something is wrong with them but instead tell them that you are fine just the way you are? Can we let them know all of the molecules that make up you, are amazing and we are so glad you are here?

Wanting to improve upon an aspect of your life is one thing, but feeling you have to improve on that particular aspect is fundamentally something else.

Don’t let society make you feel like you are not enough.

You are absolutely 1000% fine just the way you are.